【作者】 邓云菁； 宋志一； 李阳；

【Author】 Yunjing Deng,Zhiyi Song,Yang Li Department of Psychology,Yunnan Normal University,Kunming,650000

【机构】 云南师范大学心理系；

【摘要】 说谎是恋爱关系中的不速之客,严重影响恋人之间的亲密关系。研究生是正处于婚恋阶段,分析其对恋爱关系中不同谎言的接受度具有重要的现实意义。本研究在参考国内外相关研究和访谈的基础上编制了恋人之间的说谎情景故事,通过说谎情景来考察谎言类型、判断立场及说谎者性别对恋人之间的说谎行为的可接受度的影响,并结合青年爱情价值观问卷对恋人之间说谎行为的可接受度进行探讨。通过对云南省各高校在读研究生共计368名进行测查,分析结果表明:1.研究生的爱情价值观主要是传统奉献,其次是现实功利和理想浪漫,较少趋向贪图性欲。2.女性的爱情价值观较趋向于传统奉献和现实功利,而男性的爱情价值观较趋向理想浪漫和贪图性欲。3.在现实功利取向上,单身(曾经有过恋爱经历)的研究生显著高于研究生;在理想浪漫取向上,单身(曾经有过恋爱经历)研究生显著高于已有非常确定恋爱关系的研究生;在传统奉献取向上,已有非常确定恋爱关系的研究生显著高于单身(曾经有过恋爱经历)的研究生,已有非常确定恋爱关系的研究生显著高于从未有过恋爱经历的研究生。4.研究生对恋人之间谎言的接受度在谎言类型上存在显著差异,对于利他谎言的接受度最高,利己不损人谎言次之,对利己损人谎言的接受度最低。5.不同恋爱状况的研究生对于恋人之间说谎可接受度存在差异,有恋爱经历的人对恋人之间的谎言接受度最高。6.传统奉献取向的研究生对利己损人和利己不损人谎言都表现出较低的接受度,从判断立场角度看,现实功利取向的研究生在利己损人谎言和利己不损人谎言下对自己说谎表现出较高的接受度,而对对方的说谎表现出低的接受度。7.女性研究生对同性说谎和异性说谎的接受度存在显著差异,在利己损人谎言情境下(说谎者、被说谎者和旁观者立场上)和利己不损人谎言情境下(说谎者和被说谎者立场)女性研究生对于异性说谎行为的接受度显著低于同性说谎行为的接受度。更多还原

【Abstract】 Telling lies is a crasher in romantic relationships,which is serious impact of love relationship between lovers.Graduate students are in the stage of love and marriage,Analysis their acceptability of different lies that in romantic relationships has the important practical significance.This study uses self-made vignettes which happened in romantic relationships as research materials.These vignettes made based on the reference of the research at home and abroad,as well as interview.Through these vignettes the study examine the type of lies,the judging position and the gender differences of liar on the acceptability of telling lies between lovers,as well,the Youth’Love Values Questionnaire are also explored in this thesis. Analysis results from a sample of 368 graduate students in several representative high schools in Yunnan are as the follow: (1) There are significant differences among aspects of love values pursued by graduate students. Most of them appreciate dedication,followed by utilitarian and romanticism,the last is eroticism. (2) Female graduate students more tend to purse dedications and utilitarian than male graduate students do,as well as,male graduate students more tend to purse romanticism and eroticism than female graduate students do. (3) Singles without love experience more tend to purse utilitarian than graduate students who are in decided romantic relationship,singles with love experience more tend to purse romanticism than graduate students who are in a decided romantic relationship,graduate students who are in a decided romantic relationship more tend to purse dedication than singles with love experience do, graduate students who are in a decided romantic relationship more tend to purse dedication than singles without love experience do. (4) Graduate students’ acceptability of lies between lovers was statistically significant in the type of lies effect.It was most acceptable for altruistic lies;the next were the self-serving lies that do not harm the people;the least acceptable type was the self-serving lies that harm the people. (5) There are significant differences among acceptability of lies between lovers by graduate students with different Love status,graduate students with love experience whose acceptability of lies was significantly higher than those who without love experience. (6) Graduate students’ acceptability of lies who pursed dedication are lower than others,on the self-serving lies that do not harm the people,as well as on the self-serving lies that harm the people.With different judging position,graduate students who pursed utilitarian,their acceptability of their lies are higher than others’ lies,on the self-serving lies that do not harm the people,as well as on the self-serving lies that harm the people. (7) There are significant differences among female graduate students’ acceptability,between the liar with the same sex,as well as,the liar with the opposite sex.Female graduate students’ acceptability of lies for liars who with the opposite sex was lower than liars who with the same sex, on the self-serving lies that harm the people(When standing on the position of liar,deceived and bystander),as well as on the self-serving lies that do not harm the people(When standing on the position of liar and deceived).更多还原